10 Steps for Healthier, Relaxed Hair

If you are a natural sister, meaning your hair is free of chemicals, I applaud you!  I think it’s one of the best ways to have growing, healthy hair.  However, if you’re like me and you’ve got some hard to manage 4B hair that you like to wear straight 99.9% of the time you might be addicted to the creamy crack and ain’t nothing wrong with that!  It doesn’t mean we despise our culture or we hate ourselves.  It only means we like to wear our hair straight and this is one of the simplest ways to do it.  Even though chemical relaxers can be damaging, we can we can do a lot to minimize the damage and keep our hair healthy.  And with trying to be beautiful on a budget, it is not always feasible to go to the hair salon for relaxer services.  Relaxer kits have all of the items needed to chemically treat your hair at home.  These are usually the best to purchase when doing your hair at home.

Tips For Relaxing Your Hair At Home


  1. Prepare a week in advance….the week (or 2) before you plan on relaxing to indulge your hair with a protein treatment.  Since chemical relaxers break down the protein bonds of your hair strengthen your hair in preparation.  You can use a store bought protein treatment like Aphogee 2 step or you can add an egg to any conditioner.
  2. If your hair doesn’t like hard proteins use something a little gentler like Aphogee two minute reconstructor.
  3. Perform a protein treatment the week after you relax.
  4. Something I’ve run across recently is using a mild protein conditioner after you rinse out the relaxer but before you use your neutralizing shampoo.  I’ve tried it and it really helps with adding a little bounce back into your hair if you don’t like that limp freshly permed look.  It works, because again, it helps restore lost protein.
  5. The day of your relaxer, make sure you grease your scalp right before you relax.  It will help protect your scalp and hairline from burns.  You can also use hair grease on the previous relaxed hair to prevent overlapping which brings me to my next point.
  6. Do not relax your entire head every time!  Only relax your new growth.  If you relax from root to tip each time you will have hair that breaks from being so weak.
  7. Make sure you rinse all of the relaxer out.  If you leave any trace of relaxer on your hair it will continue to process your hair.  Your hair will break!  When you think all the relaxer is rinsed out rinse for a few more minutes.
  8. DO use a neutralizing shampoo, it will help wash out the relaxer and restore your hair to a healthy pH levels.
  9. Embrace those kinks! It’s hard and it took me a while to do but stretch your relaxer touch ups.  Don’t run for the kit at the first sight of a kink.  Try to go at least 8 weeks.  This ensures that you have enough new growth to relax without overlapping.  Try stretching for a little longer each time but pay attention to your hair because sometimes stretching relaxers appears to do more harm than good.
  10. Another good product I have come across is Roux Porosity Control.  I use it as a final conditioner rinse but it can be used many other ways as well.  It helps porous hair (hair can became more porous with each relaxer use).  Porous just means your hair has a difficult time absorbing moisture.  Roux Porosity Control also helps restore pH balance and closes your cuticles so it helps your hair stay moisturized.
  11. Get a friend to help you.  It’s hard to see what you are doing especially in the back.  Practice makes perfect.

You definitely do not have to do all of these steps as it can get tedious at times but using one or two may be beneficial and help you to minimize any damage chemical relaxers may do to your hair.  You don’t want to sacrifice the health of your hair for straightness.

Author: Ava Blalark

Wife, mother, writer, lover of all things hair and beauty. I may not be young but I am coming into my own, learning to love me from the inside out. I am on a journey to become a better person…inside and out. Come along and enjoy the ride! I'm lovin' me and you love you.

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  1. I just got done relaxing my hair and I part my hair to put in clips should I blow dry my hair or just let it air dry. But here’s the deal if I let my hair air dry the next day my hair will be nappy like I haven’t comb it. I’m trying not to use heat on my head.

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    • I use african pride olive miracle deep conditioning that’s what I use <<< And what kind of hair products should I use when I get done washing my hair out.

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  2. I haven’t had relaxer in my hair for over a year now. In around December 2014 I had a really bad accident when my hair burnt completely off due to bleaching, dying and then attempting to perm all within two weeks. I had to get my hair shaved off. It’s been natural since then and has completely grown back but I’m scared to relax my hair again because I feel as though it will burn off again. Do you have any suggestions? Like on what I should do or use if I do relax my hair again?

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    • I just recently relaxed after 2 years natural. First, research what works best for your hair type. Second, use professional brand products. It’s more than just high prices your posting for quality. Thirdly, only process for the recommended time. Try to avoid any other chemicals for as long as you can. Try to also go atleast 2 to 4 weeks pre-relaxer with shampooing to avoid any irritation, burns or breakage.

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  3. Okay, what kind of at home relaxer do you use? Or what kind of at home relaxer do you prefer??

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    • i use soft n beautiful sensitive scalp relaxer

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    • Dark & Lovely in the purple box.

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    • You are so wise!!! I’ve been self-relaxing since 1988. Before that, I wore my hair in its natural state. I discovered Youtube hair channels in 2014. I’ve been on my HHJ ever since. I thought I was doing everything right~I wasn’t.To be a better person is the ultimate goal! You can learn from others at any age!!!

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    • I use Crème of Nature with Argon Oil from Morocco. It leaves your hair soft and silky. I also use the Shampoo and Conditioner that’s Sulfate-Free. It also Hydrates and Detangles! Good products!!

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  4. Okay so what kind of At home relaxer do you use? Or what kind do you prefer???

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  5. Your article is nice and on point. The one product that I’ve seen to thin and break relaxed/permed edges is Jam. If applied to the hair prior to a relaxer or any residue in any part of the hair will cause extreme burning and scalp damage. It doesn’t even hold down hair only to melt; on natural hair and permed hair. The chemical reaction of burning is less on natural hair but it does have a negative affect on the staying thick and beautiful. My opinion is from a past experience of monitoring the products my clients purchase over the counter and observing other stylist’s usage of products I’ve worked with in the past. Monitoring the outcome from all new products, for months, that we purchase is a must, along with never dismissing even minor discomforts is a must to maintain healthy hair. 🙂

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  6. Question! OK so i recently touched up my hair about 2 weeks ago. well now I’m about to to get a sew in and i want my sides out so it can look more natural. Is it okay just to relax the sides i want out?

    Also, I’ve been thinking about dying my hair but people said no because i relax my hair too often. well if i use a organic dye can i dye my hair 2 weeks after i touched up my sides?


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  7. Hi There!

    Thanks for the great tips 🙂
    I had absolutely no idea about the ‘in-between’ protein rinse during relaxing. I will definitely consider using it.

    I have a question that might be a little off topic:
    I’m relaxed and recently started my hair journey. I’ve noticed that using gel in my hair helps to get my edges and overall bun flat especially when stretching. Is gel bad for my relaxed hair if i don’t plan on combing it out without wetting my hair?

    I would really hate to damage my hair by using it if it is.


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    • I don’t think using gel is bad. I use one that is alcohol free like Fantasia IC w/sparkelites or jam.

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