Ok, so we know that the highly anticipated movie about the book, “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man” is in theaters. It was number one at the box office for its opening weekend. The movie features lots of familiar faces such a Regina Hall, Meagan Good, Kevin Hart, Romany Malco, Terrance J, Chris Brown, Kelly Rowland, LaLa Anthony, Taraji P. Henson, Michael Ealy, and the list goes on. If you have not seen the movie, it is highly suggested that you go. An entertaining movie to say the least, it follows men and women through a journey of mind games and “aha” moments. The YouTube video above is for the “Think Like A Man” song performed by Jennifer Hudson and Ne-Yo. (The song has the same title as the movie.)
But…….do we really need to play mind games in the “game” of love? Have you ever been in a relationship where you have had to play a game or two to get a point across or get what you needed or wanted from the relationship? If so, was it worth it in the end? Do you think these games and rules are only necessary in the early stages of the relationship or all the way up until you walk down the aisle?
With all of the information out there, the mixed signals we are supposed to be able to decipher, the online profiles, (not to mention all of the STDs floating around)…what’s a girl in the dating scene to do? I guess there is a benefit to the 90 day rule as outlined in the movie. Keeping things out of the bedroom will allow you time to get to know the other person, their habits, and pick up on clues that may let you know that the person is not right for you. Think about it, what if after 2 months of dating and sleeping with someone, you come to the realization they are not for you? Well, you may be able to find out sooner when time is spent communicating rather than being in the bedroom. (This is one of the strategies in the book.)
I have to admit, there were moments in watching the movie that I thought to myself, “Hmm, food for thought.” I don’t know, call me old school, square, whatever, I just feel like you should be able to be straight up with what you want, what you are looking for, and need without having to play a role. Of course I am snapped back to reality in that we all have to play roles to some degree in real life. We play the role of wife, mother, sister, girlfriend, and the role you fill in whatever your occupation may be. So when we are dating and trying to find love, that is another “role” we are playing….which is the role of the “dater,” and I guess the rules in Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man, (or other rules and strategies for dating) have to play a part in our search for love.