Important Information on Texlaxing

Women of color are now, more than ever, waving good bye to relaxed hair and embracing their natural curls and waves. Some relaxed ladies, however, are opting to transition to texlaxing as opposed to relaxing bone straight or going completely natural. It is a way to keep a little of one’s texture and thickness without fully committing to being natural. For some, it is easier to maintain and allows for more versatility than hair that has been relaxed completely straight.

What is It?
Texlaxing is the process of purposefully under processing one’s hair in order to loosen the texture of the hair without completely straightening it.Many women prefer this method over Relaxing bone straight because it is less damaging and leaves the hair thicker than a relaxer.

Why Texlax?
It is less damaging than relaxing bone straight and offers a lot of versatility. For those that enjoy wearing their hair straight, texlaxing makes straightening hair easier and often results in better results if done properly.
Believe it or not, texlaxing can also aid in the transition to going completely natural. Many of my acquaintances who once thought they could never go natural changed their minds after texlaxing. They fell in love with having textured hair and slowly grew accustomed to learning how to care for curly hair. They began weaning themselves off of “the creamy crack” until they were fully natural. This is a major plus for those of us who are slow to change. Many of us jump in to going natural, cut all of our hair off, become overwhelmed and then regret it and return to relaxing. Texlaxing allows for a slow transition so that you can have ample time to decide whether or not it is the right decision for you.
Another reason many women choose to texlax is to soften the texture and weaken the hair at the line of demarcation. The line of demarcation is where your natural hair meets your relaxed hair. When going natural, avoiding breakage at the line of demarcation is nearly impossible. This can be upsetting for women who are not ready for the “big chop” and can put an end to a natural hair journey. Texlaxing this portion can help prevent the relaxed hair from breaking off for those of us who do not wish to part with the length of our hair any time soon.

How is it done?
Despite what some may believe, you don’t have to run out and go in search of new products that you are not accustomed to. The most popular method of texlaxing is by using a normal relaxer and weakening it on your own. This way, you don’t have to stress over whether some “new product” will fair well with your hair because you are using a relaxer that you have had previous experience with(assuming that you’re relaxed). If you are the type who is not afraid to step out of your comfort zone, then you can purchase a texture softener and see how you like it. If you are not going to a licensed, trusted professional, then it is imperative that you thoroughly follow the directions that come with the relaxer. When i texlax, I prefer to use the “Just for Me Texture Softener”. I have had nothing but good results with it and it does what i want. My hair texture is slightly looser and is – surprisingly- no longer frizzy. Because products don’t work the same for every one, I recommend using a relaxer that you’re already used to and weakening it.

Steps for self Texlaxing
What you will need:

Rattail comb (for parting your hair in sections. If it is a small toothed comb, don’t you dare come through your hair with it! Small toothed combs are damaging)
Shower cap
Protein conditioner

  • Select a relaxer (Optimum, Mizani, dark and lovely, motions etc)
  • Prep your hair. A texlax is still a relaxer so the same safety precautions should be taken.
  • Part hair into four sections
  • Apply a pre relaxer treatment to hair not being processed( vaseline or olive oil). This prevents The already chemically processed hair from being overprocessed or damaged during the texlaxing process.  If you have a sensitive scalp, however, oiling immediately before a relaxer can cause irritation so do it a few days before instead. Mix the relaxer according to the directions
  • Add a conditioner or oil to the mixture. I normally add 1/2 cup of either one ( 1/2 cup oil (most prefer olive oil) or 1/2 cup conditioner) this weakens the relaxer so that it takes longer to straighten your hair which gives you time to cover all of your hair in relaxer without having to worry about it making your hair straight.
  • Add a lighter oil like safflower oil to your hair
  • Relax your hair according to to the directions, but DO NOT comb or “work” the relaxer through your hair. This may result in straight hair. Instead, smooth it a little with your GLOVED hands if you want slightly straighter results.
  • Wash out using a neutralizing shampoo. Neglecting to use a neutralizing shampoo can have horrible consequences. A neutralizer Stops the the relaxing process. When you don’t neutralize, the chemicals continue to straighten your hair and do major damage. Be sure to wash ALL of it out. I prefer to use a relaxer that comes with a shampoo that changes color when there is relaxer left so i know that i have washed it all out.
  • Do a protein deep conditioner. If you would rather have a homemade one, I recommend using cholesterol and egg or mayonnaise. If you choose to buy one, “Aphogee two step protein Treatment” works wonderfully.
  • Apply a moisturizing leave in
  • Dry your hair and style as desired

There are many reasons for wanting to texlax – it is less damaging, more versatile, and is a good way to transition. Whatever your reason may be, love and have confidence in your hair and keep it as healthy and beautiful as you can.

Author: Sasha Roberts

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  1. Can you please tell me what I can do to reverse the effects of a kids texture softener? Meant to loosen the curl however her hair is straight! Please help.


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  2. Thank you for such clear instructions. I am currently relaxed (bone straight) but would like to transition to texlaxed hair. This will be my first time doing my own relaxer in many years so this article helps so much!

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  3. I am fully natural and I’m actually thinking of texlaxing. I’m just thinking it would work better for me seeing as I once use to have a healthy head of relaxed hair which I enjoyed styling. Can full-blown naturals texlax their hair and does the process of doing so differ from what most people recommend?

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  4. I texlaxed and I LUV IT! Best decision ever– for me. I still have my curls and kinks. I was ready to relax my very thick hair, but decided to texlax first- it shortened my detangling time tremendously and I rocked the baddest wash n go’s all summer. I used to dread “wash day”, but now I wash my hair twice a week (in the summer ) every two weeks in the winter – in between twist outs. I get compliments EVERYDAY regarding my hair. – I did leave it on too long in the back so it’s a little looser than I wanted, but that was my first time applying it and I now know how long to leave it on when I decide to texlax the new growth on the back of my head again – (in six months).

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  5. I did a texturizer and I regret every moment. I follow the instructions and didn’t even leave on there for not even 3mins and my hair is straight. My curl is gone. 1st time using as well. I would not prefer anyone to texturize your natural hair. Do it wash out or I have to start all over?

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  6. I am a licensed cosmetologist and have been one for quite sometime. Although EVERYONE has jumped on the “natural” boat. Tex-laxing is a great alternative for those of us who feel that the natural way is just not working. You can have dry, brittle, and damaged Natural hair! Please don’t what works best for you and your hair. May grandmother has a full head of healthy relaxed hair and has been getting chemical treatments for over 40 years. You can have healthy relaxed or tex-lax hair.

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  7. my daughter got an curl softner at an salon the brand was by dark and lovely kids curl softner, i am a little concern because of how straight her hair is . My question is how long will the product keep her striaght and will it ever go back to its curly stage.

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    • Its going to have to “Grow out”. Her hair texture has been altered due to the chemicals. Maybe the stylist had the softener in too long or she combed it through, causing it to behave like a relaxer.

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  8. Do you still add the oils with the Just for Me Texture Softener?

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  9. Firstly I hope all you girls Fully understand that once you go and ‘texlax’ or whatever, you are no longer ‘natural’. Closer to it, but chemically treated nonetheless. So you essentially are back to Square One. No matter how it is processed or how much crap you put in the relaxer, it is a chemical change that must be repeated to avoid breakage. Reason? Chemicals used in relaxing are designed to chemically break the inner bonds responsible for curl formation. Just because you are only breaking less of those bonds, does not mean that its “gentler” or “safer”. Now don’t get all pissy on me because I am not saying Don’t Do It. Merely that you must care for your hair as you would if it were relaxed to avoid sketchy breakage and weird dryness. (Although its a rather cute look, the gradual lightening of the hair over time is actually another ‘side-effect’ of relaxer chemicals…lol) With that being said and with this whole Natrual Game we are playing lately, I totally understand that some folx just need it. Its not anything to be ashamed or worried about. The overall goal is the final Look and ease of styling no matter how you can get it. Play it safe Girls is all I ask as not only a friend ,natural for a decade, but also as a Cosmetology Instructor and Salon Owner. RhayneStarr@Facebook

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    • I understand what you’re saying totally and that’s why I haven’t resorted to texlaxing yet. I will say yet because I have been fully natural for 2 1/2 years and it honestly is worst for me than ever. I am encountering extreme dryness, well for the last 3 months I have been using Hydratherma Naturals and greasing my scalp so it has worked wonders but it is nothing like my natural hair up until age 12 and relaxed through my adulthood. I did have a very long mane of healthy relaxed hair so I know that it is pretty much what you do to keep up your tresses. I do agree though that texlaxing is back to the chemicals but now I do understand that natural can be torture also. I guess to each his own really.

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  10. Hello, Thank you for the post. I wished I had found it when I was texlaxing my hair in December 2013. Anyways I didn’t use a relaxer, my unfortunately didnt take in most place. Im waiting until April 2014 to texlax again. What do you recommend?

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  11. I finally got my 4C+ hair texlaxed just the way I wanted it. It took 3 tries with two stylists but it’s now perfect. I have a few questions for those that have had it for awhile. For those with 4C texlaxed hair what products are you loving for twist outs or perm rod curls? How often do you texlax? What semi permanent colors are true tried and safe for our hair?

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  12. When did you start texlaxing? Seeing that your hair is now mid-back length. I’m transitioning and I do not want get to the big chop just yet. My hair is shoulder length. Also, is it okay to not comb my hair untill washday? I put my hair up in a bun and take it down when washing. I style it back up with just my fingers. Is that healthy for my hair? I deep condition biweekly.
    Thanks 🙂

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    • I personally think its best not to use anything but your fingers IFyou actually have to until washday. Ur gonna laugh but I just wet and shake like a dog for a week. (shakeitlikasaltshaka). Think of snapping the water out of a paintbrush.

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  13. Hi,

    I am interested in doing this process but I still have some questions.

    My last perm was st the end of March and I should be due for one soon. Can I start the texlax process instead of my next perm?

    Also, what about maintanence after. I am used to 4 perms a year. What will be my new regimen once i have started this.


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    • Yes, you can texlax instead of relax when it’s time for your next relaxer. That’s how i started out and now i have mid back length texlaxed hair and 2 or 3 inches left of relaxed bone straight hair

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  14. I plan on texlaxing when I go to the states for University. Is there any way I can find a black hair salon that offers this process? (I plan on living in either nyc or miami). And if not, are there specific texlaxing products that you can name? I am not of switching products, as long as I get results.

    Thank you

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    • You can try to see if they’ll do it at a salon. I’ve heard of some salons refusing to texlax people’s hair because it’s too iffy(they could leave it on too long and then you’re hair will be straight or not long enough). If you want to do it at home, i recommend the just for me texture softener. Sorry for the late reply

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  15. Had a question about texlaxing. When do I use the lighter oil (safflower oil) my hair during this process? Is this done before texlaxing or after? I guess I do not understand this part of the steps. Please explain, thank you!


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    • The instructions tell you to use the oil before the process. Half of the bottle goes into the actual mix and the other half is to be used on your scalp and your hair.

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